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3 Fears that Keep You Bonded to the Narcissist, Part 1

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Soul GPS
10 min readFeb 25, 2018
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Your intuition has been screaming at you. You’ve seen the signs. You’ve made a mental (or a written) list of red flags… and they all check out. Your health has been failing, the headaches getting worse and it’s been hard to focus on the things that matter to you.

Your emotions (and hormones) are disregulated and you find yourself falling into panic and depressed states with increased frequency. It’s been difficult to get out of bed and get anything done. You fantasize about escaping somewhere far and yet the idea of not seeing your partner again brings you excruciating pain. You are all in and yet feel lonelier than ever.

A Moment of Clarity

Finally, you’ve had it. Another insult, another violation of your fragile peace makes you erupt in anger. The emotion scares you at first. You’ve never felt this much raw force inside you before. Overwhelmed, you step outside to gather yourself and think. You notice that the farther away you get from them, the better you feel. As you take in your fullest breath yet, clarity descends.

It’s time to go…

The idea of freedom is no longer just an idea. It’s a real possibility. You know what to do. It feels so simple now that you’ve made the decision. You understand…

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Soul GPS
Soul GPS

Written by Soul GPS

Certified coach and workshop facilitator, sharing tools for healing from narcissistic abuse and chronic pain. #coach #writer mysoulgps.org

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