Is it even possible to find it in a world jammed with conflicting information, endless demands and so much confusion?

Yes, it’s possible to discover your life purpose. A big affirmative yes. And there is no one better to tap for advice than the bestselling author of book on the subject, Tama Kieves.

I remember years ago when I was trapped in a life that didn’t feel right, a job I didn’t like and in a relationship that was toxic without having a clue how to exit the sticky web.

I read about other people who made it. And it…

Photo by Bahaa A. Shawqi from Pexels

What makes people enter into and stay in toxic relationships for much too long?

Turns out that there are seven specific traits that belong to people who form the perfect personality model that attracts manipulators.

These traits include: conscientiousness, empathy, cooperativeness, optimism, fear of failure, attachment, and sentimentalism.

The list is by no means exhausted but it is enough to give us a feel for the person who falls for the promises spun by a highly problematic partner, whether in business or private life.

Now, these traits are fine to possess in a neutral to positive social context, meaning when…

It is difficult to catch someone in a lie as it happens. Usually we realize it after the damage is done. Until then, it remains veiled. But here is the deal. When you suspect that you are dealing with a narcissist, overt or covert, you can be sure that he or she are lying. As they say, it comes with the territory.

Narcissists lie through their teeth. Lies are what their false persona, or the mask, is founded on. The persona is always grandiose and typically operates as a bully or as a victim.

Narcissists use lies to exploit others…

I don’t usually share my creative scribblings publicly, but I’ve been so engulfed in the news unfolding across the Atlantic, that I decided to add my tiny voice to the cacophonic, murky conversation.

I do it partly to assuage my guilty conscience for having fallen for the slew of conspiracy theories that have erupted in our cyber pseudo-reality in 2016 (and before), effectively turning what was left of the real into the surreal.

For the record — I did not vote.

For those of you who may say that I’m straying from the predominant theme of my blog I firmly…

Going through dark night of the soul doesn’t need to be scary and disorienting. Knowing the steps of the process helps illuminate the path.

We’re born fresh, open and innocent.

As we grow and learn, our view of reality rapidly evolves. Trying to make sense of the world, we imitate others and take on the perceptions of those who surround us. We experience encouragement and care but also separation and pain. Both are part of growing up.

Some of us are luckier than others. Some are surrounded with positive role models to emulate and from whom we receive steady doses of love and validation. This teaches us to attach securely and grow in safety. …

Truth: you are unbreakable.

I hear this often in my coaching practice.

I’m exhausted. And yet, I can’t sleep.

I can’t work or focus on anything.

It’s like I’ve become a zombie, a shell of myself.

Yes, the exhaustion... It turns out it’s an effective tactic that pathological manipulators use to control, possess and eventually break you.

In this article, I will break down the process of how they do this. But first, I want you to know something very important. The truth is that while abusers can push you to the edge of exhaustion and sanity, they can never…


During times of intense stress, the body burns through more resources than it can replenish. In this vein, for a sensitive empath a relationship with a malignant narcissist can resemble a life in a gulag.

The emotional and psychological abuse can severely dis-regulate your hormonal system, damage your connection with yourself and make recovery much slower.

This post is not to take place of professional medical advice. I’m a coach, not a doctor. But since it’s a common question I receive from time to time from my viewers and clients, I wanted to share with you what I did shortly…


Having just ended your relationship with a narcissist is traumatic enough. What if you also happen to work with them under the same roof, or share an office?

Here are five tips to help you cope, also discussed in the video below.

One. Detach Emotionally.

I know this is very difficult. Emotional hurt takes time to process, even if you go full no contact. Healing is much easier if you don’t have to look at your ex everyday. Still, you need to detach one way or another. It’s a boundary you set with yourself.

Limit your rumination about the relationship to specific times…


Wiele osób, z którymi pracuję, zmaga się z rozwijaniem zdrowych granic i szacunku do siebie, ponieważ podświadomie nie chcą być jak narcyzi w ich życiu.

Ale posiadanie szacunku do samego siebie bardzo różni się od nadętego poczucia ważności i wyzyskującej wspaniałości narcyza.

Jako osoba empatyczna, który ma tendencje wchodzenia w manipulacyjne relacje, szacunek do siebie i ciągłe stawanie zdrowych granic jest czymś, nad czym musisz pracować, jakby zależało od tego twoje życie. Ponieważ prawdopodobnie tak właśnie jest …

W procesie oczyszczania twojego ciała, umysłu i duszy od negatywnych wpływów agresywnych i manipulujących ludzi, ważne jest, abyś nie zapominał o swojej…


Many people I work with struggle with developing healthy self-regard because they don’t want to be like the narcissist in their lives.

Let me tell you something. Having self-respect is very different from the over-inflated self-importance and exploitative grandiosity of a narcissist.

In fact, as an empath who has a pattern of getting into abusive, manipulative relationships, it is something you need to develop like your life depends on it. Because it probably does.

This is why, in the process of purging your body, mind and soul from the negative influences of abusive and manipulative people, it is crucial that…

Soul GPS

Self-development tools for self-healing and authentic relating. #coach #writer

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store