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If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist, at some point you are bound to realize that their words and actions don’t match.
In the early stages of the relationship, when they are full of fire and verve, they’ll say things to you, things they’ve tested during their previous romantic conquests, to make you feel like you are in the center of their world. And that you are. For a time. Until they get lazy and bored, you see through their facade or they find a new target to seduce.
Narcissists can be quite crafty with words, which they work like spells. If you are not careful, they can put you in a trance.
In the initial stage known as idealization, their words are still fueled by the fanatical desire to possess you, or something you have, and their actions are somewhat in alignment. The combination of words, vibes and actions focused in the same direction makes them come across as convincing and even genuine.
But once the honeymoon stage fades and they lose interest, it will be harder for them to keep the illusion intact. The same words that once reverberated with the din of a thousand bells, will fall flat and sound more like the droning of a broken record.
I know you want to believe that they mean what they say. But do pay extra attention to that…
