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All forms of abuse are painful. Because it leaves no visible scars, emotional and mental abuse can sometimes be not only painful but extremely difficult to untangle. Narcissistic abuse robs you of confidence, sense of self and even sanity. You begin by questioning your behavior, but soon also the natural feelings that arise as a result of your interaction with the narcissist.
One of the first things that happens in toxic relationships is that your connection with your intution becomes severed. And soon that expands to also include your family and friends. In order to have their way, the abuser needs to isolate their victim. If you’ve been there, you’ll know exactly what I mean here. Even though you were in a relationship, you never felt more alone.
Then… you woke up. You realized that this is not a relationship to stay in and work on but to run away from. Fast. And you did it. It was not easy. In fact, it was the hardest thing you’ve ever done. That’s because not in a million years you’d think that the person who proclaimed undying love for you could betray you so much and on so many levels.
So you left. But even though the abuser is no longer there to hurt you and keep poking at your wounds, you are hurting nevertheless. It’s as if the outside abuse…
