Five Lessons in Fearlessness

There is a bit of a contradiction in the title. Here is why: I don’t believe that any of us can be fearless on a consistent basis. The reason for this is that fear has a purpose; it was hardwired into our brain for a reason. It can save us from death, it is a survival switch designed to kick in during moments of danger. Great for when a saber tooth tiger is chasing us!

The problem with fear is that it’s been running our lives in this crazy out-of-control, achievement driven culture we live in. It is like we are encountering tigers around each corner. And while it might not be possible to be 100% fearless, it is 100% possible to learn to control the fear and use it as a messenger, or better yet — as a catalyst for action, rather that letting it run our lives.

For simplicity purpose, I’d like to split fear into two categories: the chronic and the acute. This short piece will address the former, as the latter was hinted at above with the tiger example.

When we are chronically inundated with fear, it has several damaging effects: it robs us of stepping into an unfamiliar situation that could offer a great opportunity, it keeps us in a distorted framework, and wrecks havoc on our bodies, blocking energetic channels.

However, despite what many might think, treating fear as the enemy creates contrary effects. If we resist it, it will persist and grow. Instead, if we are open to its messages and approach it with openness and kindness, the way we would approach a friend who needs help, or a a traumatized child. By acknowledging it, hugging it and not judging it. Over time, it will dissolve and perhaps even, reveal interesting insights.

Short Practice

If you are currently sensing fear in your body, sit down or lie down in a place where you will not be disturbed for a few minutes. If you are at work, go to your car.

  • Close your eyes and take three slow deep breaths.

Five Faces of Fear

Paradoxically, being truly fearless is not about banishing fear from your life, but rather welcoming it, and thus not letting it control you. You are in charge. Remember:

  1. Fear is a feeling, a result of a thought, not a fact. It is real but it is not in control when you are conscious of it. It can become habitual, but with regular practice of welcoming it, its presence will diminish.

As you can see, there is one single way to reach fearlessness and stay there. Life is constantly changing and our emotions are barometers informing us of the degree of resonance that exists between our inner and outer worlds. It may take some time to get there but overtime it is easier to feel more free and unbound from its clutching hold.

However, there is one way to achieve a state of fearlessness that lasts, but it requires a strict discipline through self-observance to build a relentless state of kindness. Because only the truly kind have nothing to fear.

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