How to Cultivate Healthy Self-Regard

Soul GPS
4 min readAug 27, 2018

Many people I work with struggle with developing healthy self-regard because they don’t want to be like the narcissist in their lives.

Let me tell you something. Having self-respect is very different from the over-inflated self-importance and exploitative grandiosity of a narcissist.

In fact, as an empath who has a pattern of getting into abusive, manipulative relationships, it is something you need to develop like your life depends on it. Because it probably does.

This is why, in the process of purging your body, mind and soul from the negative influences of abusive and manipulative people, it is crucial that you keep your sights on your bright future and keep working on yourself.

Shortly after coming out of a toxic relationship, you feel devastated. A betrayal like this is highly destabilizing and painful. It makes us doubt the past, the person we thought we knew, and yourself.

But you can use the experience as a golden lesson and turn it all round!

This is why I recorded my newest video on the topic (link below). I want to invite you to start developing healthy self-regard.

Here for you, are the 10 traits of a person who displays healthy self-regard:

  1. You know what you want/need and how to ask for it. This is crucial. Without knowing who you are and what you need, you will not be able to define yourself, set healthy boundaries and negotiate in relationships.
  2. You are okay with conflict and don’t shy away from arguments and disagreements. We have no control over other people and their agendas. Therefore, it is inevitable that at some point we will encounter people whose ideas and opinions will differ from our own. This is why we need to practice assertiveness and being comfortable with disagreements. This is how we grow character!
  3. You are curious, intelligent and able to form a cohesive argument. Without researching, forming and articulating a well-informed argument, our confidence will keep receiving blows. While being rejected is a part of life, it’s valuable to devote some of your time to learning how to present your argument in a way that is received as intended. Side bonus? Feels good.
Soul GPS

Certified coach and workshop facilitator, sharing tools for healing from narcissistic abuse and chronic pain. #coach #writer