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Narcissists are extremely insecure and look for ways to prove to themselves and others than they are better than everyone else. They use sex as a tool for controlling people and to affirm their superiority and greatness to themselves and others.
Sex to them is a way to garner supply in the form of admiration, attention, pleasure, domination, power, adoration, praise, worship, and so on. A narcissist is likely to tell you things, like: ‘I want to be the best lover you’ve ever had!’ and then ask you to evaluate the act afterwards.
But when they ask, they are not looking for honesty. They are looking for praise and flattery. If you dare to criticize, you’ll have to pay for it later.
Remember, narcissist is like a black hole. Regardless of how much you give them, it will never be enough. Which is why after a sexual act, no matter how intense, exciting and uplifting it was in the moment, you will feel deflated, empty and alone.
Addicted
Narcissists use sex as a bonding tool to hook you on their energy. Sex can be an excellent instrument for inducing trance states, which is how they seize control of your attention.
Naturally, during deep sharing all of your attention is on your partner. Using a method called bait-and-switch, they…
