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Anyone can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person at the right time, and for the right purpose and in the right way — that is not within everyone’s power and that is not easy.
— Aristotle
There comes a time where you cannot hold it in any longer. You’ve taken one too many. Whether it was yet another lie, cheat, dig disguised as a compliment, another smear campaign, toxic gossip nugget that reached your ears or a droplet of blame. One too many abuses.
Like a volcano rumbling in your gut, you feel the fury rising.
As Aristotle noted twenty-three hundred centuries ago, anger has its place. And in abusive relationships, it can be the last necessary ingredient to tip the scales in the target’s favor.
Vast majority of targets of narcissistic abuse include empaths and codependents. Codependents are essentially empaths who were trained by abusers, often using the age old system of punishment and reward, to completely disregard their own needs. In this vein, the parasitic relationship between a narcissist and a codependent can be compared to a vampire sucking on the target’s sustenance until the latter is utterly exhausted or nearly destroyed —…
